Tracy and Sonya have made it a point to do something fun together to celebrate their December birthdays. This is one such adventure… | By Sonya Finley and Tracy Daugherty
Our story begins with a small group ice-breaker exercise. The question was who had a tattoo. It ends with a two-inch needle purposely driven through the soft delicate tissue of two very cute noses …
[Sonya] It was a simple question. “Do you have a tattoo?” Yet my answer, “No,” launched a rather energetic dialogue of the possibility of getting a nose ring. I just got off work and the energy was not mine.
[Tracy] Well it was mine. I had thought and dreamed about it (a nose ring) for a long time. I loved the look of the little diamond in other women’s noses. I felt like, “Now is the time!” There was a lot of synergy, and the folks around us got on board with it, so I said, “Let’s do it!” Besides, if it didn’t work out, I could ditch it if I wanted to. I liked the idea it that it did not have to be permanent.
[Sonya] I thought too about nose piercings on and off. I never quite got up the nerve to do it though. I mean, hey, it took me until I was in my mid-forties to get a third hole in my ear, and that was done only because my sister-friend took me herself. So in the face of Tracy’s enthusiasm, what could I do but go with the energy of the moment and commit to the plan?
[Tracy] Nothing to do but to do it. This was our time, and we committed to the plan.
Once the decision was made, each of us had to find our place of peace with it. This was a pretty significant act, right?
[Tracy] I had decided that I wouldn’t do it without the full approval of every member of my family. My family’s agreement was most important.
[Sonya] I was not necessarily seeking approval—I have long since stopped consulting other people when making decisions regarding my image.
[Tracy] Everyone was okay with it except my youngest son, Hudson. He told me he would never forgive me if I got a nose ring. I was disappointed, but it was important for me to listen to and respect his thoughts. I did not want to make him uncomfortable.
Tracy was adamant that she would not do it if it offended anyone in her family, and so with her son’s voiced objections, Salt n Peppa’s adventure was halted (and the crowd goes, “Awwww.”)
[Sonya] Sometime during Thanksgiving, I get a text stating, “Miss you! My son has given his joyful consent to the nose ring, so let’s lock down the date!”
[Tracy] It was during our trip to Palm Springs. My son came to me and said, “I can actually control if you get a nose ring?” I said yes, and he said, “Ok. You can get one.” After getting a big smooch, I immediately texted Sonya to give her the news.
It was on now! (And the crowd goes, “Woot! Woot!”)
[Sonya] Body piercing is a much different affair then just getting your ears pierced. After some serious research, we decided upon a little place called Body Piercing by Tracy. Yeah, Tracy liked the name.
The shop was great. The sales clerk was kind and attentive. She patiently answered every question Tracy had. Sometimes twice! Our piercer was capable, knowledgeable and professional. Our ease did not last long.
[Tracy] Sonya convinced me to go first. I am glad I did or I would have chickened out! Did you see that needle?
[Sonya] Lucky me, I witnessed the needle before I experienced it. I could have used a teddy bear to hold on to when it was my turn. Tracy offered to hold my hand but I settled for closing my eyes. Then, O.M.G! The pain! When it came, and it did come, it was swift and took over the right side of my face. Tears fell unhindered as I waited for it to pass. It did go away eventually, but only to be replace with a lovely throbbing ache that lasted for about three days.
There are many reasons why women make changes to their image: dissatisfaction, rebellion or a response to a momentous life event. Change can be as simple as a new dress or as complicated as a totally new look. Sometimes the desire for change is so strong, satisfaction only comes when the transformation is reflected in some sort of external symbol, such as a cute little nose ring.
My partner and I sat in my car after our liberating experience and reflected on our personal motives for taking such a distinct step.
[Tracy] I did it because I have always wanted to. I thought it would be fun doing it with a friend. Of course, being the woman of Scripture that I am, I had to find validation in the Word, just in case someone questioned me. Passages from Ezekiel 16 speak of God redeeming and beautifying us with symbols of his ownership. Verse 12 (NKJV) says, “And I put a jewel in your nose, earrings in your ears, and a beautiful crown on your head.” Okay, for all the Bible scholars out there, I know this passage is pushing it, but I liked it.
[Sonya] My decision was a bit different. I simply want my outside to reflect my most authentic inside self. As I get closer to 50, I am no longer satisfied looking, acting or being like what I have been told I should. I was not created to be anyone else but me. Not being me would be doing God a disservice.
We did this great thing! Now, there were opinions galore before we did it, but once it was done we found that most people did not notice. Those that did, loved it. And in spite of hard work to keep it clean, we are having fun with it.
Until our next adventure,
Sonya and Tracy
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
Native to Southern California, Pastor Tracy Daugherty heard the Lord call her to full-time ministry at age 15. She and her husband, Pastor Dan Daugherty, met in 1991 and have partnered in ministry for over 25 years. Together, they have pastored in Olympia, Washington and Fairfield, California. They now shepherd The Father’s House Church which they planted in 2003 in San Marcos, California. Their family includes their daughter Drew and husband Ryan, their son Dawson and their son Hudson.
Sonya A. Finley (SonyArletta) is an artist and designer currently working “undercover” at North County Transit District and will soon be moving over to the San Diego Airport Authority. She is a proud mother of four young men: James, Kevin, Joshua and Johnathan. Sonya attended US International University School of Performing and Visual Arts, where she majored in Advertising Design. She received her Associates in Fashion Design from FIDM and her Bachelor’s in Fine Art (painting emphasis) from Mississippi State University.